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August 2000

In this issue:

Let's Hurry Up
and Relax!

Mimi Frenette

Identifying Passions is Key to Balance
Suzanne Kelsey, p. 2

Piercing Corporate Illusions
Steve Davis., p. 3

Balancing Work and Life: Redefining Success at Midlife
Gene Glatter, p. 3

Balancing Who You Are and What You Do
Susan Race, p. 4

What is Work/Home Balance?
Sandi Epstein, p. 4

Today's Technology... Today
Butch Farley, p. 5

Today's Interesting
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From the Editor
Welcome to our latest issue of Today's Coach featuring "Life and Work Balance."

In a world of increasing technology and economic fervor many of us feel torn.....torn in many directions or, simply, torn apart.

As successful as we may be, many of us are, simply, tired.
Driving many of us to look even harder for that elusive balance in our lives.

Read on and see what a number of experts have to say on the topic.

Let us know what you think. We'd like to know how you stay balanced!

Butch Farley

Let's Hurry Up and Relax!
Mimi Frenette

Simplicity. Millions of Americans are striving to achieve it, often without much success. We cut back our expenses, throw away possessions we no longer need, and struggle to establish priorities. Yet nothing will really change for us unless we address a deeper problem - our addiction to speed.

The idea of speed came to me while on vacation not long ago. We were sitting around the campfire one evening discussing how hard we all worked to be able to take time off and about the massive workloads that would be awaiting us upon our return. I felt as if I needed to "hurry up and relax." Just thinking about it made my heart beat faster and my mind race in anticipation. I realized how trained I was for speed.

I am impatient with people who are not on time, with drivers who lazily react to the red light turning green, to people in the grocery line waiting until the last item is scanned before pulling our their checkbook.

Most of us had the idea that all the new technological devices such as the Fax, E-mail, cell phones, and World Wide Web were going to save us time. But do they? Or do they make us feel more obligated to respond at a faster speed? Snail mail feels so slow! The pace of our lives has been cranked up to a level that would have been hard to imagine not too long ago.

Generally, speed is viewed as a good thing. It is even heralded as the answer to our overly busy lives. Swamped by work? Get a faster computer. No time to read? Listen to books on tape while driving. No time to enjoy life? Purchase one of those devices that allow you to lose weight faster, cook faster, and even make money faster. I have always thought the faster I moved, the more things I could do and the more fun and meaning my life would have. But what am I missing at a
deeper level?

When I hear friends complain that their lives move too fast, they're not talking about disliking the notion of speed as much as a desire to spend moreof their time involved in slow, contemplative

   Mimi Frenette

A balanced life is what people crave.

I accomplish much in my life and I truly like the way it feels: the adrenaline, the brainstorming of ideas, and the crossing of things off my list. But when I leave work, I consciously try to slow down and do things that make me feel good like going for a walk, cooking dinner, or talking with friends.

I've heard this referred to as "selective slowness." The key is to be able to focus on the proper rhythm, geared to what you are doing. If we can learn to shift our rhythms, to vary the pace of our lives, a new sense of peace will be the reward. How do you do that?

Begin by slowing down and being aware of what is going on. Take a deep breath. Worried about the future? Focus on experiencing the present moment. Walking to work each day, or to appointments throughout the day, helps. Laughter, music, a change of environment, exercise, massage, any single one or combination of these is effective.

When I start feeling resentful because of all the demands on my time, I stop and look at my choices. Is what I am choosing to do in alignment with the purpose that I have defined as supremely important and does it contribute in a meaningful way to the vision I have as a whole? If the answer is yes, then I lose the sense of being out of control, of time ruling my life, and I can relax.


Mimi Frenette
Leading Edge Consulting
Phone: (970) 247-5999
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Articles in this issue:

Let's Hurry Up and Relax!
Identifying Passions is Key to Balance
 Piercing Corporate Illusions
Balancing Work and Life: Redefining Success at Mid-life
Balancing Who You Are and What You Do
What is Work/Home Balance?
Today's Technology

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